It is so difficult to realize that you have been gone from our lives 8 years now & would be 53 years old tomorrow. There will never come a day, hour, minute or second I stop loving or thinking about you. Just as parents of living children unconditionally love their children always and forever, so do bereaved parents. I want to say and hear your name just the same as non-bereaved parents do. I want to speak about you as normally and naturally as others speak of their living ones. I love you just as much as they love theirs– the only difference is you live in heaven and talking about about you is unfortunately quite taboo in our culture. Our culture isn’t so great about hearing about children gone too soon, but that doesn’t stop me from saying your name and sharing your love and light everywhere I go. Just because it might make someone uncomfortable, doesn’t make you matter any less. Your life was cut irreversibly short, but your love lives on forever. And ever.
I will grieve for a lifetime. Period. The end. There is no “moving on,” or “getting over it.” There is no bow, no fix, no solution to my heartache. There is no end to the ways I will grieve and for how long I will grieve. There is no glue for my broken heart, no elixir for my pain, no going back in time. For as long as I breathe, I will grieve and ache and love you with all my heart and soul. There will never come a time when I won’t think about who you would be & what you would look like now. I wish people could understand that grief lasts forever because love lasts forever; that the loss of a child is not one finite event, it is a continuous loss that unfolds minute by minute over the course of a lifetime. Every missed birthday, holiday, milestone;– an entire generation of people are irrevocably altered forever. This is why grief lasts forever. The ripple effect lasts forever. The bleeding never stops. There is and will always be a missing space in our lives, our families, a forever-hole-in-our-hearts. Time does not make the space less empty. Neither do platitudes, clichés or well-wishes for us to “move on,” or “stop dwelling,” from well-intentioned friends or family. Nothing does. No matter how you look at it, empty is still empty. Missing is still missing. The problem is nothing can fill it. Minute after minute, hour after hour, day after day, month after month, year after heartbreaking year the empty space remains. No matter how much time has passed.The empty space of our missing children lasts a lifetime. And so we rightfully miss them forever. Have you ever wondered why every holiday season is like torture for a bereaved parent? Even if it’s been 5, 10, 25 or 35 years later? It’s because they really, truly are horrific. Imagine if you had to live every holiday without one or more of your precious children. Imagine how that might feel for you. It would be easier to lose an arm, a leg or two– anything— than to live without your flesh and blood, without the beat of your heart. Almost anything would be easier than living without one of more of your precious children. That is why holidays are always and forever hard for bereaved parents. Since I have lost 2 sons there is nothing– and I mean absolutely nothing– I take for granted. Because I’ve clawed my way from the depths of unimaginable pain, suffering and sorrow, again and again, I give all the credit to my knowing my Lord & Savior, Jesus Christ. Without Him I would not have been able to keep holding on. Thank you, Jesus.
Being your & Jimmy’s mom is the best gift I’ve ever been given. Even death can’t take that away.
Just a short post to let you know that Mom and I miss you and will until we see each other again. Your's and Jimmy's Easter Lily is the one on the far right.
- Mom and Dad
Unreal that nearly 8 years have gone by. You are not forgotten. I think of you and Jimmy both every day. Anyone can tell I'm not much of a web designer, but I really wanted to try to make your page look a little nicer with things I've learned since my first attempt; hopefully I succeeded. I love you and miss you and sure wish I had you around to give me big brother advice.
Just want you to know that you and Jimmy haven't been forgotten. Here are pictures of the Easter Lily and the insert into our Church bulletin placed in remembrance of you.
- Mom and Dad
As it happens, every now and then...just thinking of my old friend.
- Shawn Horton
Today marks 6 years & 2 months since we lost you. I always have you on my mind as you were our sole reason for moving back to Mt. Carmel to be near you. Just posting some of my thoughts of you in pictures today—I never see a frog that I’m not reminded of you as we always referred to you as our “little froggy”. Our Eric has been faithful & so kind to keep your page maintained for us & as always it is a bittersweet time when I visit it, but momentarily I feel closer to you. One of the last gifts you made me was the “gingerbread lighthouse” which I cherish always. The other two photos just represent my feelings that I continue to live with daily. See you again one of these days never to be separated again.
- Mom & Dad
Here's a few pictures to let you know we still miss you and like to remember the good times we had together. Here's the newspaper memorial and pictures of the new flowers on your stone.
- Mom and Dad
Greg: We have thought & talked about you most of the day & reminisced about so many things & I wanted to share my Facebook posting about you that I shared with any of my friends that chose to read it. Most of all though I want you to know how much you
are loved & still missed & wish you Happy Birthday. Life will never be the same again until our circle is complete.
My post: Our Greg could keep me laughing with all the one liners he would come out with & it was just his natural wit. He had so much talent that ranged from remodeling a house, working on cars, boating, jet skiing, fishing, flying a plane, hunting, cycling, baking birthday cakes, cooking, & so many other things that don't come to mind right now. It seemed if he wanted to tackle something new he could always figure out a way to do it. One of the last things he made was a gingerbread lighthouse for me--simply beautiful--To go along with this he had a heart of gold & would help anyone that he could. Even though we miss him here so much, I feel he is so happy with Jesus right now that he would not want to come back to all the earthly troubles & is just waiting for all his loved ones to join him there where the family circle will never be broken again--We love you, Greg! <3
Dad's added comment to my FB posting: Greg was really a multi-talented person. He didn't know the meaning of the word "can't" and he never bothered to look it up, so he could do just about anything he set out to do. We miss you Greg.
Gregory... Happy Birthday! Forever in my heart! Love ya!... 15---Susan :)
Gregory..... How is it that somedays you are close to me I can feel your very presence? Someday I wonder what it is you are trying to reveal to me. I know you definately were watching over Shea last month & I thank God for giving you wings to do that! I miss you my friend. I saw John Jordan about a month ago. It was so good to see him & thought of us riding his motorcycle. Great memories and the Best of friends! We so lived life you & I. The little things that meant so much. I can't wait to see you & catch up! I love you & miss you! As always 15... Susie :)
Here are the new flowers we just put on your stone, Greg. We love you and miss you always.
- Mom & Dad
Greg, Just wanted to share a couple of pictures. We took our Easter flowers to Church in memory of You and Jimmy. Wish you both could have been there with us. We love you and miss you.
- Dad and Mom
Greg... Funny how reminders of you are imprinted on this town. Through people, business, friends & things you use to own that still are in movement. It's hard to see some of those reminders, bitter-sweet is how it comes across. Life has been good although I miss you my friend. There are so many things so share and be excited about. Talking to a headstone just isn't the same. I have learned a great deal of wonderful things since your passing & I will be thrilled when I get to see you again & tell you face to face all about them. Thank you for your time here on Earth with me-us, and all that was shared. As always 15... Love you....Susie :)
Happy Birthday, little brother. I posted about your birthday on my blog today. If you were still with us, I would tease you about not reading it. ;-) I love you. I miss you.
Here is the part of our Church bulletin for the Easter Lily display. Wish you and Jimmy were here to smell them with us.
Just wanted to share this picture of the new wreath we put on your stone, Greg. We miss you and there's never a day we don't share our memories of you.
Hey Gregory.... The kids started school yesterday. Jessica's senior year & Shea's freshman year. Hard to believe. CJ will be having a baby boy in January. Finally a boy in the family believe it or not :) I wish you were here to be able to join in on the big day. I miss you. Miss working with you and hearing your voice. Somedays it seems like yesterday that we were in that shop, riding the motorcycle, or just taking a walk barefoot, holding hands and talking. Memories that I am left with. Just missing you my friend. I know you are close at heart.... 15 :) as you would say. Love ya......Susie :)
Happy Birthday to you Gregory! You would be 47 today. Another year wiser :) Miss you! Love you....
- Susie :)
Greg, Looks as if you now have Zeeb to keep you company. Mike Talley & I spoke about you just the other day before Jon passed away. Mike misses you just like we all do. So do us all a favor and welcome Jon home. Show him around and when it's our time we will be seeing you both at the gate to heaven.
Love ya....Susie :)
Greg, here is the memorial we put in the Republican Register today just to let everybody know that we still remember you and miss you. Wish there wasn't a need for it and you were still with us. We miss your visits with us and you'll always be in our memory and in our hearts. We love you.
- Mom & Dad
My dear dear friend, how I miss you. We were only two days apart in years and millions of miles apart in life. I often wondered if you were happy and I can tell by the pictures you were. I have FANTASTIC memories of our childhood together. All the fun we had and trouble we caused. I remember your dad's "child eating plant". You know to this day I cannot go around a Venus Fly Trap plant without shivering. I hate those plants. They day you were called home I called your dad and laughed and cried with him. He had forgotten about the "child eating plant" until I brought the memory and laughter back to him for a brief moment. We laughed so much at that memory it felt like old times. If I have but one regret it would be that I did not find you in time to laugh and talk to you like we did when we were young. And now you are gone and I will never get the chance to see your smile or hear you laughter again. I am so thankful for the memories and this web page. I get to see my friend again. I know I will see you again some day and we will laugh and talk just like we were kids. I love you miss you!!
I wish Heaven had a phone so I could hear your voice again. I thought of you today, but that is nothing new. I thought about you yesterday, and days before that too. I think of you in silence, I often speak your name. All I have are memories and a picture
in a frame. Your memory is a keepsake, from which I'll never part. God has you in his arms.. I have you in my heart.
Loving & missing YOU--2 yrs. now-- 7/19/63-4/23/08
Gregory... Here it is again another year since you have made it to Heaven. I wonder what it's like there with Jesus. Getting to see all the family members who have passed before you. Being stress free, pain free, rested, eternally happy and the list goes on. All I can say is I know you were ready & when my day arrives to go home to Jesus I can't wait to see your smiling face. I love ya....Susan :)
It's hard to believe that its been two years since the day we sat with you in the hospital knowing that you had left us but praying that a miracle would bring you back. It wasn't to be, but we're grateful for the time we did get to spend with you for your last 7 years. Rest in peace, son
Dear Olde Dadd
Here it is Christmas eve again and my thoughts never stray for long away from still missing and loving you so much! I still don't understand why you have to be absent from us, only God knows the answer to that. Someday I guess I will understand if God thinks it is important for me to know, but I'll probably be so happy with just seeing you again it won't seem important then. I would have to write daily if I expressed my many thoughts about you, but no need to do that as they are shared with the One Whose birth we are celebrating tomorrow. Merry Christmas to you as I believe you are celebrating it with the One we all wish to be celebrating it with when our work on earth is done. I love you, sweet Greg!
Unlike our memories of you which are ever in our minds, the red rose wreath we had placed on your stone had faded over the summer months so we replaced the wreath with this blue one. The color very well denotes how we feel when we think of you being gone. We remember how much you loved Christmas and it is just around the corner right after Thanksgiving. I also remember how you said you didn't like sweet potatoes & after you ate your first bite of my Sweet Potato Casserole, with a lot of nudging on my part, it then became your personal request every Thanksgiving after that. This is just an example of so many bitter-sweet memories that I carry in my heart every day. We love you and will miss you until we are all re-united once more in that heavenly home that we who are left are still striving for.
Loving & missing you forever, Mom
Gregory.... Thinking of you. The holiday seasons are coming soon and as we sat at the dinner table the other night the girls mentioned your love of my fried chicken and when your folks & Aunt Pam & the boys were here for a family meal. Memories.... that's what we have to take with us what is left behind. Moments in life that take our breath away, that make an impact on us. We made quite a few. I think back as when we first got together & how you mentioned that this was OUR time and that you didn't think that we had much time left. I remember telling you that I believed things happen for a reason & that you also needed to spend as much time with your children & family as you could cause none of us are given tomorrow. If people only really knew how you & I connected & what we knew about each other. I miss you my friend. We will hold on to our memories till we can chat again. 15.....
- Susan :)
Gregory...Time seems to go by so quickly. Lloyd and I talk about you often & we both still miss you very much. We have our memories but they are not the same. There are so many things that I have learned about you even as you are not here. If only you were here to talk. Instead I talk to your best friend who is absoultely a wonderful listener and comfort zone when it comes to you. I thank God for that and for you. My life's journey was on the edge of being over when you died. I lost control of it all but when Lloyd reached out & took me to church with him & pushed me to gain control again. I may have resisted at first but am ever so grateful now. Because of you I am where I am today. So I thank you for all the little things you left behind & the hidden messages. You my friend may have put your mark on me at the young age of three, won my heart at fourteen, but forever touched my soul. No one besides Lloyd & I know all the secrets you have kept. I am not sure that not too many people really knew the real inner you. Guess they never will. Thanks for always being there for me. I hope you are able to rest now that the demands of life have been lifted off your shoulders. 15...... (As you would say)
- Susan :)
You would be glad to know that your class remembered you and others at homecoming time at MCHS. Here is the ad that was in the Republican Register today. I'll be looking forward to the homecoming when we all see you again.
- Dear Olde Dadd
My thought about you today: Death leaves a heartache no one can heal; love leaves a memory no one can steal. Missing you and thinking of you everyday and still wondering why you had to leave so soon. Even though I will probably never understand in this life, I continue to live by faith and draw strength from Romans 8:28 which tells us that God is working for the good for all those who love Him. I do love Him and I love you and it will be wonderful to see you both when God's plan for my life is fulfilled. In the meantime, I continue to pray for Him to direct my steps and to be filled with His peace that only He can provide. With my love always,
Gregory... Life is good. I am thankful for so many things. I am pleased to say that I got to see Cassie & Greggy when they were in town. They are doing good. Greggy looks just like your pics when you were little. Cassie has really turned into a girly girl. You would be so surprised by that since she was such a country girl. They both are doing well and growing. Greggy said he remembered living here. Too cool. That boy has a memory. We all miss you. I know that in due time we all will be reunited. Until then watch out for us all. I love ya! Susie :)
Miss you buddy !!! However I know you are ok !!
- Mike Talley
Happy Birthday, Little Brother. I miss you.
Today marks the day of your birth when God gave you to us as a precious jewel 46 years ago. It makes me realize why it is for our good that only God knows the future as it would have robbed us of joy of the time we had with you. There would have
been a cloud looming over us as we faced each new day knowing we were another day closer to losing you. Even though I know you are somewhere so much happier now than we can begin to imagine with our limited earthly vision I still miss you so
much as I write this with tears in my eyes and still selfishly wish I could say "Happy Birthday" to you in person and get one of your good bear hugs in return. I often think of Mary when Jesus had to die on the cross and even though she knew
the reason why I know she must have grieved with great sorrow for the loss of her Son, too. God knows the tears, sorrow, and pain that I have felt since He took you home, but He remains faithful and I always feel His spiritual re-assurance when
I go to Him in prayer that you are free and happy from all your earthly cares & despair. My goal is to remain faithful and overcome all of satan's pitfalls with God's hand in mine and Him guiding my footsteps until my earthly mission is finished.
Then I will hear Him call my name and say, "Welcome Home". What a glorious day that will be and I will see you again!
For today one of my angels will have to deliver my "Happy Birthday" message to you!
Until I see you again, rest in Heavenly peace, sweet Greg!
Your mom who has and will forever love and miss you until we meet again
I have thought of you often since I learned of your passing. As a matter of fact, it happened just yesterday. Though I have moved so many miles away, my memories take me back to the old trailer we lived in back in '82' ... in Patton. And the subsequent trailer and all the hours we spent growing up together ... sneaking out during P.E. driving my old junk ford (didn't need the keys!!) down to the south end to get breakfast... the old garage ....rebuilding your first carb....never knew where that would lead.... I remember your obsession that drove me nuts and made me laugh....the outside and bottom of our cookware had to be as clean as the inside.... I think of you, me, Lloydee, Mr. Humphrey....so many things. All will be strong and have gained greatly by your intelligence and humor but the corners of the day will always be a bit more dark without you in the world. Peace my Friend.
Attached are pictures of new decorations we have added. The first one is one by the rosebush in the back yard that Mom's bowling team gave us when Greg died. The second one is the frogs we put on the base of Greg's stone.
- Dear Olde Dadd
Gregory...Today I went to visitation for a friend I went to school with & work with. As I stood in line waiitng I could visualize myself in her place just going through the motions. No words anyone can say helps what you are going through. They have two children one boy & one girl. The little girl is theirs together & is around Greggy's age. I have had her on my mind since I found out her husband died & I thought of you. I know it's been alittle over a year since you have been taken in God's hands but you remain so close in our hearts. The memories we all have made with you keep your spirit alive.We talk about you and the things we have done together & we miss you. CJ is doing well since the wreck & is graduating high school tomorrow. She made a board for her reception and there is a picture of you on it on the motorcycle with Greggy. It says remembering you on graduation..wish you were here & I love you. I think of all the things that we talked about the night before you died that we wanted for the children. I wish I would have a chance to talk to Cassie & Greggy when they are older & tell them the things we talked about. If given the opportunity I will, only God knows the answer to that. I miss the kids and hope they are doing well in their new enviroment. Keep watching over them...all of us. There's a song out called Love Remembers when it plays I think of you. It's true love does remember all the things that took place and I am thankful for all the times we had together. We lived, laughed and loved. Those were the best of times...cherished memories. By the way the plaque I placed at your gravesite says: Gone yet not forgotten, although we are apart your spirit lives within me forever in my heart. I placed that there from all of us...Lloyd, CJ, Jessica, Shea, Cassie, Greggy, Eric, Donna, Pam, Josh, Casey, Nathan & myself. I know your kids, sister & brother might not be able to travel to visit that day but I go to your gravesite & take care of it & felt that the plaque fit all of us. As you would say to me "Fifteen". Love ya....Susie :)
Greg... Today is CJ's 18th birthday. On mothers day evening she was in a wreck and they sent her to evansville to the trauma center. I had not been to that hospital since your death. I dreaded the trip cause she looked so bad and because of your death. We spent the night in the trauma center with her and yesterday she got to come home. She is a very lucky girl. She very well could not have walked away from this. The trauma to her face was very bad but the swelling has went down and she's alive and that is what matters. I feel as if she had a guardian angel watching over her. If that angel was you or you & everyone in my family who has passed on thank you for saving my girl. I went out on the day of your death & placed a plaque at your gravesite. We all miss you very much. You are still in our heart. I love ya. Keep watching over all of us. Love ya....Susie :)
It's hard to believe it's been a year now. It still doesn't seem real. Donna and I visited Mom and Dad for a couple of days this past week. We knew it would be a hard time for them, as it was for us, and it was nice to spend the time together. One neat thing that happened, when we went to visit your grave, this little frog hopped onto the base of the stone. Of course, knowing that Mom and Dad's nickname for you was "froggy", a small part of me wondered if it was your way of saying "hello!", and putting a smile on our faces. I sure do miss you bro.
In Memory of Gregory Alan Asberry
July 19, 1961-April 23, 2008
(I think of this as a message from our Greg)
When tomorrow starts without me as I'm not there for you to see...
If the sun should rise and find your eyes filled with tears for me,
I wish so much you wouldn't cry the way you did today...
While thinking of the many things we didn't get to say.
I know how much you love me, as much as I love you...
And each time you think of me, I know you'll miss me, too.
But when tomorrow starts without me, please try to understand...
That Jesus came and called my name and took me by the hand,
And said my place was ready in heaven far above...
And that I'd have to leave behind all those I dearly love.
So when tomorrow starts without me, don't think we're far apart...
For every time you think of me, I'm right there in your heart.
Our message to Greg that we ran in the Republican Register-
For a year now we've missed you everyday,
Many memories you left us and inside our hearts they stay,
So many tears we've cried since you went away,
But one day we know we'll join you for a Happy Reunion Day.
You were not only our beloved son, but you were our "Ace Mechanic"
And someone we could always depend on to be there when we needed you.
May you rest in peace, Son.
Sadly missed by Mom and Dad
Greggie and I miss you sooooooooooooo much...we live in Pennsylvania now. I have lots of friends but it's still not the same as Illinois...I still love dogs as much as you did, and I hope they are in heaven with you. Give Scrappy a good belly rub for me, even though I don't really remember her, and if Romeo, Curious, and Patches are up there with you make sure you tell them that I still miss them. But not as much as i miss you...I know that if people come back as animals, you would come back as a dog. Loyal and loving. Faithful and protective. I remember how you used to tell me that there is no such thing as a bad dog, just a bad master. In fact, the first thing I did after we left the hospital that horrible day, was go to the dog pound. The dogs made me feel better, for a while. I found this dog there, and he followed me in his cage as I walked around the cages. That dog smiled a smiled that reminded me of yours. I met another dog like that...a female but all the same. She's beautiful, and mom said mabye when i asked about adopting her! She has the same smile as the dog i met that day did. A trusting, faithful, loving smile. She's a hyper dog. She's full of energy just like you were, and in the 20 min. I spent with her she made me laugh with the expressions on her face. I found a sore on Singy's paw but it went away. Please watchout for her, though it just looked like a cut type thing. I've included a picture of the female dogger i want!!
Love Ya Daddy,
Cassie and Greggie
Gregory... I visit this site often but have not written. I usual go to your gravesite for my inner peace. I still have a hard time sleeping due to waking up in your arms the morning of your death, although it's getting better. I am reminded often of how you & I knew each other so well actually better than anyone else. That makes me smile knowing that we discussed our dreams for the future & for the children. I think back at all the good times we shared with one another & talk to your friends about you & we tell stories. We've laughed & cried talking about you, but it's all good cause even though you are not here we know that you are at peace with God & we will be reunited when our time is finished here on Earth. We all would like to be selfish and have you here with us but know that is not possible. So we continue to live our lives just as you would have wanted us to do. I know you to well and to grieve ourselves to death over your passing is not what you would want. You would want us to reach out to one another & live passing on stories to come of you. That's how memories are stored. That's why we always had a good time together cause we would make memories & relive the good times we all shared & some of the not so good times that we all have had which made us stronger. Greggy... I know you like a book and I know that you are at peace. You have left too many signs. I miss your presence here but am at peace knowing that you are in God's hands & can finally get the rest you so well deserve. You were a good man, friend, partner, father, brother, son, & mechanic to name a few. My life will always be marked by knowing you like you said you put your mark on me when I was three. You never ceased to amaze me. I continue to move forward in my life with the girls & with Lloyd. You were right not only was he your Best friend he is loyal & a good person. He has helped us all cope with your passing & given us hope for the future. You always knew Best. We all love & miss you Greg. We will continue to reach out to your family & friends & keep your memory alive with good memories. May you rest in peace. I love ya ...Susie :)
With the first Christmas season here since our son's death, I find myself trying to keep away the torrent of tears as our son, Greg, was a very special person who loved Christmas and loved giving! He had a heart of gold. Always ready to help anyone
and I know we were very blessed to have had him in our lives for 44 yrs.-although for us it wasn"t long enough. His presence in our lives was truly a gift from the Lord. We miss him terribly but I know that we will be re-united one day. This
being the time of our Savior's birth and such a joyous time for Mary then, I am also reminded how Mary, His mother, must have felt on the day of His death after having Him with her for only 33 years. While it is so difficult to always accept
and understand God's will, we must depend and rely on God just as Mary did and know that God is in control and always does what's best for those He loves and those that love and trust in Him and is working out everything for our good--Romans
--Mom & Dad
Hi Sweetie-- Nathan has been scanning old pictures for me and he has found a few--not enough--of you. I miss your beautiful blue eyes and your bright smile. You were totally unassuming and yet you were able to light up a room. Most of the photos I have of you are from the holidays--Thanksgiving or Christmas. I'm not sure how I'm going to make it through the next couple of months without you. I love you and miss you more than words can say. I wish I could have helped you more.
--Your adoring sister, Pam
I come here and visit you every night and look into your beautiful blue eyes. This is one of my favorite pictures as it seems when I look at you that you could still be right here with me. I love and miss you so much, Greg. This is such a bitter-sweet site and no one could ever feel more of a heavy heartache every day and shed more tears over losing you. I hope you are happy now and being rewarded for everything that you suffered while trying to always make the world a better and brighter place for others while you were living. As Tiny Tim would say, "May God bless us everyone" until we're all together again
Just a short note to let you know Mom and Dad haven't forgotten you. We will always miss you and wish you were still with us. About all we can do is tend yours and Jimmy's graves and wish there was some way to bring you both back. But we can look forward to seeing you both again in the next life. Rest in peace, Greg.
Mom and Dad
Greg, This wreath was placed on your stone yesterday and Dad didn't have the camera with him when he put it on so we went out again today and took pictures of the front and back. We met one of your friend's mother while we were there and she said you had worked on her car several times in the past and she had so many nice things to say about you. She says her son has been so upset with knowing you are no longer with us that he can't even bear to come out and look at your stone. You are so missed by all that loved and really cared for you. Most everyone seems to be coping with your loss much better than your dad & I, but that is to be expected, I suppose, as I carried and gave birth to you & we both loved you with all our hearts for 44 years. Our lives are forever changed and nothing will ever be the same for us in our earthly life without our Greg! Loving you and missing you always!
- Mom & Dad
Greg, your stone was installed just today, 09/19/08. We're sorry that you need one, but that is about the last thing we can do for you. We are pleased with the way it turned out and we're sure you would be too. We will get a nice arrangement for the top of the stone as soon as we can. We miss you and always will. Pictures of your stone are attached.
- Mom and Dad
In My Son's (Greg) Memory
If stairs could build a stairway
and memories were a lane,
I would walk right up to heaven
to bring you back home again.
No farewell words were spoken between us
before you left this earth.
No time to say good-bye or
give a hug and a kiss.
You were gone before I even knew it
and only God knows the reason.
My heart still aches in sadness and
secret tears still flow down my face.
What it means to lose your son,
no one will ever know;
Unless they have lost a child and
gone through the different stages.
Time and the Grace of God is the only thing
that will bring me through the loss of my son,
I thank the Lord I have support of my family
and friends and the prayers of everyone.
This first year is the hardest for me to exist
because I am still in shock ever since that day,
My son died at age 44, and my life seems so
empty as I can never again see his smiling face
until I, too, have finished my earthly race.
I do go on for my family's sake,
because I knew my son would want me to
and God in his infinite wisdom must still
have more work for me to do.
I had a dream about you a few weeks back. Like you did so often, you called me just to talk and stay connected. When I answered the phone and it was you my first thought was: that can't be Greg; he's not alive. And then I had the thought, maybe Greg's death was just a bad nightmare. Then I woke up and realized that the whole nightmare was indeed real. I will always miss you Greg and wish that I could have done something to avoid your death, but I have to realize that it is real, but it is still hard to accept. Hope to see you again in a few years.
- Dear Olde Dadd
Hey Bro, had another dream about you last night. We were walking beside a lake, out in the country somewhere, just talking. We decided we hadn't gotten a chance to spend some good one on one time together for a long time. So we were planning on taking a road trip to get away and have some fun, just the two of us. We were both really excited. And then I woke up. :( I wish it could somehow come true. I miss you so much, and I wish we could have spent more time together while you were still here. Now I just cling to the good memories and hopes of happy dreams.
We just got back from the Orio Chowder and I felt so much emotion with seeing people there that knew you and had so many kind things to say about you. I missed bringing you home a gallon of the chowder as I knew how much you liked it. Today is our 51st anniversary and perhaps that is one of the reasons I have felt unusually sad all week as I remember this time last year you were with us and with your usual generosity that you really couldn't afford treated us at Hogg Heaven with a nice meal and a beautiful anniversary cake for our going away anniversary trip. The thing I now most treasure about that night was your presence. It's good that we don't know the future because if I had known that you were going to be taken away from me I could not have enjoyed that night. I am trying so hard to cope with the knowledge that I'll never see or hear you talk again and some days I feel like I just can't continue to bear it and tears roll down my cheeks as they are now as I'm writing this. Then your positive spirit that always rubbed off when you were around and God's spirit suddenly fills my soul with "Yes, with our help you can and will make it!" I realize I cannot be a quitter and I must fulfill whatever purpose God put me here for while swallowing such a bitter pill as I finish my race all the while feeling such an undescribable void without you being here close by and seeing you and talking with you. I love you so much and just can't understand why I had to lose you. I have to just maintain my faith in God that He always does what's best for those that love Him even though our vision is so limited that we don't see His whole plan and understand it at the time. I'm trusting that you are happy and free from all the trouble and trials that you were having to contend with while here on earth the past few years while you continued to always be more than fair and just with everyone even when you were being abused and misused. Your actions remind me of the example of Jesus being tortured and crucified and while on the cross saying, "Father, forgive them for they know not what they do." Long after many others may have forgotten you can know that my love will endure for you forever and you will always be remembered and missed by me until my dying breath.
My love forever, Mom
hey. i'm a senior this year. i miss you alot. sometimes i cry because i do something or hear a song.. like when i worked at ponderosa every sunday morning little red ridin hood came on. i cried because you and greggy used to sing it. did mom tell you she sprained her ankel mopping at work!! ha i laughed sooo hard..because i remember her telling me to suck it up when i got hit with the box of baking soda.lol school is pretty cool this year. i wish you were here to see me graduate. i know you are around us all the time but its just i want to see you here. i miss you and matt like crazy everyday.. until i see you guys again i love and miss you both and i want you to know im doing okay. LOVE YOU SO MUCH DAD!!!:D:D love-ceejay*
Bro, I bet you're up there getting a big kick out of "Bigfoot" being in the news. It sparked a fun memory for me. I remember when I was little, and we were still living on the farm, way back in the 70s, I think there must have been a Bigfoot craze going on at the time, you used to sing this Bigfoot song. After I remembered that, I got obsessed with finding it and found it online here. I thought I'd share, because I'm sure it will bring a smile to the face of anyone who knew you well, as they will be able to easily see you singing this in their mind, just like I do. I sure do miss you bro.
Gregory... Today is the first day of school for the girls. It's hard to believe that this is CJ's last year. The girls are growing up so fast. Time seems like it just fly's by so quickly anymore. I can remember you telling me when we got together that you truly believed that this was our time and if we didn't seize the moment we may never have another chance for that last dance. I am so glad we captured our time together and made those memories. You were right. It was our time and time goes by very quickly that everyone needs to take the time to do what's important cause you may never get another chance for that moment. I can still remember you getting down on your knees & singing our song to me. I still cry when I here that song and I have the honor of seeing those words engraved by you on my key chain everyday. You had a way of touching my heart with all the little things you would do. I hold those things as my most valuable possessions. From the time we dated in 1984 till your passing you have always given me things from your heart made with your hands. You were such a hard worker. You were always willing to learn something new and had an incredible memory for useful & as you would say useless :) information. The things you would make the kids & I try to remember like the speed of light or the song about the clams we had to hear over & over. It still brings a smile to my face & I have to laugh. You had such a good sense of humor. To know you was to truly love you in all areas. There was never a dull moment. I think of all the good times we shared growing up together as neighborhood kids, to dating & first being in love as young adults, to these past few years as we were older, grown with children of our own. We lived, loved, & laughed. The moments we shared created memories and in moments like these without you here that is what we have to reflect upon. I look back on the photos I have taken of us & the kids & can remember what we were doing & where we were at. The time we shared together here was very precious & I am very thankful for that time and that we were able to have that time together. You are missed by so many people. We all talk about you often & still tell stories. We love you & wish you were here. Though we know we can't be together we will hold you close in our hearts as always. Keep guiding us & watching over us. I love ya.....Susie
Gregory... I have been working overtime lately. This seems to be a busy time. I think about all the things you and I use to do at the shop together. You were such a talented individual. I want you to know that for your birthday we launched balloons in memory of you. It was so awesome to watch them float off into the sky. I attached a card to the balloons in Memory of Gregory Alan Asberry 1963-2008. Today we launch these balloons in honor of his 45th birthday. We love & miss you dearly. If found please return the card with your return address. Greg touched so many lives with the love he shared. We would like to keep his memory alive by touching others. I made sure that Shea sent one up for Greggy & Cassie. I also played some songs for you during the launch. I think about you everyday. There is a song out by Jason Micheal Carroll "Let It Rain" that reminds me of you. I seem to play it alot lately. I miss you, baby. You know time seems to be going by very quickly. There are so many things I wish I could share with you. I miss our late night talks. I love you...Susie
Greg -- I haven't been here since last week. I cry whenever I do - the sadness is overwhelming. I wish so much that we could turn back time. You would be proud of Eric. This site is a labor of love for him. It's painful and therapeutic . He misses you so much and has been dreaming about you. We all miss you. We've been spending a lot of time with Pam and the boys, including your birthday. It's good being together. Pam and I talk about beads and knitting/crocheting, while the boys (that includes your brother), play video games and poke fun at me and Pam talking about beads and knitting. I wish you could be here with us. In true Asberry tradition, you could join in on the teasing. I know I'm almost a week late, but Happy Birthday Greg. We miss you and love you . . . Donna
Hi Greg-- I don't know how I made it through your birthday. It was a very emotional day. I was updating my iTunes on Saturday and I came across the CD Eric made for me of the music we had played at your funeral. Of course, I listened to it, but it made me so sad. It sat here at my desk and cried and cried and cried. I wish I could play "Linus and Lucy" for you one more time. I can't believe I'm never going to have another conversation with you. You were so interesting to talk to--such a contradiction. You presented yourself to the world as a simple, blue-collar guy--an auto mechanic who loved fast cars and motorcycles and beer and pick-up trucks and country music and NASCAR and hunting and fishing and God and your country. And of course you were all those things. But you were also a deep thinker--insightful and intuitive. You were kind and gentle and patient and loving and loyal. And you couldn't understand it when other people didn't behave the same way. You asked hard questions and it troubled you when you couldn't come up with the answers. You were in the middle of a terrible struggle--with a floundering business and an ugly divorce, trying to juggle all that with a "new" relationship and two kids. I knew how hard things were for you and I worried about you so much. I tried to be there for you; I know I could have done better, but I had/have struggles of my own, and I have a feeling if I had been Ms. All-Knowing-And-Perfect, you wouldn't have opened up to me the way you did. And you seemed so strong--even when you were weak. I told myself that time was on our side, and that your love for your family--for Cassie and Greggie, for Susie, for Mom and Dad, for Eric, for ME, and for your friends--would be enough to pull you through. But in the end, it wasn't. I weep for what I have lost, and for the future that will never be. Sometimes, I just feel so hopeless. But I have no choice but to keep putting one foot in front of the other, one day at a time. I miss you, Brother. I would give anything to be able to hug your neck and tell you how very much I love you right now... Your Big Sister, Pam
Greg--I had a great dream about you the other night. You woke me up and gave me a big hug and told me how much you missed me and how glad you were to be back. I was a little confused but I was so happy. But then I woke up, and you're still gone. I miss you so much bro.... Eric
Greg--We will miss taking our car for you to fix. You were a great guy. You will be missed here in town. Me and your Mom go to bingo together, and I try to cheer her up, she misses you so much. The whole town misses you....Mary Hamilton
I can remember such joy surrounding your birth 45 years ago today and Dad's delight with calling your Grandmother (his mother) and letting her know about our special surprise for her birthday that day, too...YOU... Since today is your 45th birthday we so wish we could celebrate it with you... We are thinking of you with love today, but that is nothing new... We thought about you yesterday, and every day since you left us, too... We think of you in silence, we often speak your name... Now all we have is memories... and your picture in a frame...Your memory is our keepsake, with which we'll never part...God has you in His keeping, we have you in our hearts...Mt. Carmel is such an empty place without you here and now Dad & I feel so alone without the security of you being close by us and knowing you would be at our side in an instant if we needed you...I love and miss you so much...
Gregory... Your birthday is just around the corner and I wish you were here so we could celebrate. I am going to do something special in honor of your memory. You have touched so many people during your time here and I want to keep your loving spirit alive. I miss & love you so much. You are always in my thoughts & my heart....Susie
Hi sweetie, Greg, we have never met, but through you Mom and your brother Eric's memorial page to you, I feel that I know you. It's past the fourth of July and we all feel that the celebration without you is empty. You brought so much love and joy into your family and friends lives and each day without you is a struggle for them. I may not have ever met you but I know one day I will when I reach heaven. Until then, Greg, watch over all who love you and when a breeze passes by thier face, may they know it's a kiss you are sending to their cheek. With love and prayers, Pat Moore Baltimore, Md.
Greggy... Hey there baby! I been thinking about you alot lately. Before too much longer your birthday will be here. I miss you like crazy. There are so many times I find myself thinking of a song you use to sing to me or the way you changed the lyrics in one of the songs and a flood of memories come pouring in on me. Alot of the times I smile but here lately it seems like I have been real emotional about alot of things & just cry. Gregory my life without you is changing so rapidly. The days at times seem to all run together. I miss you. I was out at Dad's this past weekend with everyone. Well all of a sudden John goes to sit with Tina on the swing & it was like you just appeared. That picture we have of all of us on that swing I could see you theres plain as day then it was like that whole evening changed I could recap everything we had done the time before when you were there. Your presence was very strong that day. I guess I also think about you & I getting married and how pretty of a wedding it would have been out at Dad's. By the way Dad's not feeling so great so could you keep a watch over him for me. I know that he's had some close calls lately but I need you to put a good word in for me cause I can't bear to lose him too. I know you will watch over all of us. I wish you were here. I miss seeing your face, hearing your voice & I miss your touch. I just wish you were here Greggy. I love you with all my heart... Susie
Been thinking about you a lot. It's funny how the brain works. Donna and I were in the car and that "Chattahoochee" song came on. I was singing along and then I thought of Christmas, when we were playing that karaoke game and I sang that song. Which reminded me of how Donna has commented so many times about how whenever we go back to Illinois, I sort of, I guess you'd say "revert" to a southern Illinois accent and when she hears us talking together we sound so much alike. And then it made me sad to think that will never happen again. I miss you bro. I wish we could have hung out more. It's July and its tough because I think about your birthday and think about Jimmy being killed so many years ago in July. I try to be positive and focus on remembering the good times but its really hard not to focus on the emptiness I feel inside. I try to be tough and not to cry, but buried deep down inside in a place I let few people see, I'm really a very emotional person and sometimes it just boils over and I can't hold it back anymore. I love you Greg.
Tomorrow (the 30th) will be little Greg, Jr.'s 3rd birthday. I wish you were here to celebrate it with him. I made him a special card that had a picture of you on the front feeding him cake the day we all went to the Golden Corral and then I enclosed a picture of you and him with the cake that you made him for his 2nd and last birthday that you got to celebrate with him. You were so very talented and could do so many things so well--fixing cars, remodeling on your house, baking cakes, cooking such good omelets and other foods as well, creating me the beautiful gingerbread lighthouse (a real work of art which took a lot of time plus the cost of a new mixer which Susie & I talked about the other day) the love and time that you spent helping others when they needed something as I continue to hear about the good deeds and favors that you did for others so freely. The world truly lost one of a kind when Jesus decided your work on earth was finished and called you home. I miss you so much and never a day goes by that a tear or two doesn't slide down my cheek from missing you. Life goes on each day with my frequent requests for help from Jesus to help me maintain control and continue on until I complete my journey and fulfill His purpose in my life that I was created for. Not having you here and missing your sense of humor and positive outlook makes the path so much more difficult for me. You would be proud of your brother, Eric, for taking the time to create this memorial page for you and it has also helped me by going to the site and somehow feeling connected to your spirit through all the pictures and special things that have been written by others about you. I love you, Greg, and with God's help I will continue to try and live my life in such a way that when my journey is complete I will see you again and hear Jesus say to me, "Welcome Home!" What a day that will be as I know Heaven will surely be worth all the pain, heartache, and tears that we go through while here on earth. Missing you with an aching heart
Greggy...Hey babe! It's seems like forever since I have seen your face & yet it's getting close to two months. I miss you like crazy. We all do. You just wouldn't believe all the people that call & come by or stop me who also miss you. You have touched so many lives in so many ways. I will always be so proud of you & your accomplishments in life. I start work today & it's the same job we had discussed to get you insurance. That means it was meant to be. I wish you were here but know you will be watching over me. I miss my friend in you. You always were there to share everything with & I miss our late night talks, morning coffee, & working with you. I still feel your presence here & miss your touch. You remain in my soul & I know that things would have always been so good between us. I am waiting for the day we meet again. Until then you continue to guide me in the right path. I know you have been doing that. Your words of wisdom have come to me so many times during your departure from here & those words of wisdom have made me stronger. I thank you for all you have given me in life. You are the Best! I love you with all my heart...Susie :)
Greggy...I wish you were here as always. I went out with Dad the other night. It was good just he & I. We talk about you so much & what we both wouldn't do to see you walk through our door. He misses you as much as I do. I know his health isn't good and someday he will be with you. Until then could you keep an eye on him? Thanks. Everyday I get up thinking about you and wanting you here. I love you so much and just can't seem to grasp the reason for you getting to be in God's hands and we are left here to suffer. Somedays I wonder how we have made it this far without you cause it's a struggle. I think the love we all have for you keeps us going but the longing for your touch is what brings us down. We all miss you & love you so much. Keep an eye on Mom & Dadd and the rest of us. I love you & miss you like crazy. Love Always....Susie
It seem almost impossible that it will be six weeks since you were called home. My heart still feels so heavy and yet carries such an emptiness inside. Life continues on and I realize more each day that my challenge left is to make the dash that
is left in my span of life count for God and face each day with more strength and courage than the day before so that when we're re-united you will be as proud to call me your mom as I was and am to call you my son! I am trying to renew myself
each day with this message below that I feel could be sent to me from you as I look at the picture of you that I have hanging on the wall by my computer desk now--
Don't grieve for me, for now I'm free. I'm following the path God laid on me.
I took His hand when I heard Him call, I turned my back and left it all.
I could not stay another day To laugh, to love, to work or play.
Tasks left undone must stay that way; I found that peace at the close of day.
If parting has left a void, Then fill it with remembered joy.
A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss. Ah yes, these things I too will miss.
Be not burdened with times of sorrow; I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow.
My life's been full, I've savored much. Good friends, good times,
a loved one's touch. Perhaps my time seemed all to brief
Don't lengthen it now with undue grief. Lift up your heart and share with me.
God wanted me now. He set me free.
Gregory... I miss you so much. You are such an amazing human being. You have touched so many lives & it shows in all the people that have come by to check on me & tell stories. You are so loved & missed by everyone. I think about you all the time. Stay close & watch over us. I love you...Susie
Gregory...Baby I miss you so much. Tina & John cane to get me the other day & we went to visit some friends. It was good to do that but equally painful for you were not with me. Talking about all the great wonderful memories we have made together is what keeps me going. I found the pictures of you & me in 1984 that you were looking for. Thanks for guiding me to that. I have a friend who said this to me "Look you were with him at the beginning & you were with him at the end. Not too many people can say they were that fortunate & that loved. All good things happen to those who wait." In some ways that is very comforting to know but in others painful cause I know the plans we had made & I am the only one here so some of them will never be carried out. I treasure all the memories we have made together. You have brought happiness to my life & my children's life and no one can ever replace that. I know you had many obstacles in your way to complete things the way you wanted. I know your wishes & how you wanted our life to be. I will do my best to carry out your wishes. The only one I can't accomplish is the one that was to take place this summer in us getting married out at my Dad's. In my heart and in yours we both knew that was already a given. A piece of paper didn't have to seal the deal for us. I know you are now at peace & you have your wings. We all know how much you love to fly so spread your wings & fly. Keep a close eye on all of us who loved you with all our heart, cause we need a guardian angel. You have earned that. Soar high Greggy! I love you, Baby! Love...Susie
My life can never be the same again for me
because of the great loss of my son, Greg
There is an emptiness in my heart
which words could never describe.
No one can really relate to you unless
they have experienced it themselves.
Only God can repair the hole in my heart
and give me the healing that I so desperately need.
Yes, my heart is broken into many pieces
and the Lord is healing me slowly by bringing by
his angels (special people into my life) at the right time
so I can continue to function in this world.
You do wonder sometimes if you'll ever be okay;
I know it takes a lot of prayers and time.
They say time heals everything to a certain degree,
But not a day goes by that I don't think of my Greg
and say a little prayer for God to take good care of him
until I'm re-united with him there.
I love you and miss you so much, Greg!
Greg, the world has loss a wonderful person. In life you were a man that walked in Jesus' path and showed others what it means to be a Christian. You never repaid a hurt or a wrong done to you with malice, but with love as Jesus would do. You loved your family and friends, and have left a empty place in our hearts, that you took with you when you went to your crown and glory. You showed love and kindness to everyone who crossed your path. You were both loved and admired by more people than you knew, even me, who has never met you, a email friend of your mother's. I feel a loss for never having the pleasure of meeting you, yet feel that I know you through your mother and Eric's memorial page. I feel that God must have needed a man so loving and pure of heart to be an angel to keep watch and guide those left behind. We we meet, when God calls me home, I shall greet you with a kiss and embrace you. Until then, God's faithful servant, when we catch a warm breeze, I'll think of you and how you embraced life. With love and prayers, Pat Moore Baltimore, Maryland
Greggy...Today has been three weeks since you haven't been by my side. This past few weeks have been so hard & everyone has been really good about checking on me but it doesn't make it any easier. I miss you & love you so much. I just don't know how to get things together without you here. You are everwhere I go in every thought every minute of every day. I wish you were here. You are my everything. Stay close to us. We all love & miss you. You're the Best baby. I love you. Love...Susie
Greggy, Hey baby! CJ turned 17 yesterday. We missed you here. Shea says to tell Papa Hi & that she loves you. I went by to give your mom her Mother's day gift. Please watch over her she is having such a hard time. I so wish you were here. We all miss & love you so much. There's not a day that passes that we aren't telling stories about you...keeping your memory alive. I love you with all my heart. Stay close. Love...Susie
Greggy...I don't even know where to begin. My whole life seems so empty without you here. I miss you so much. You made my life complete. I think of all the plans we had & we were so close. I know you are in a better place & I know you went the way you wanted to with your arms wrapped around me. I miss that. You are so special to me & my heart just breaks cause you aren't here. You my best friend & soulmate are one of a kind. I am very thankful that we had the time we did together & that it was good. I just wish you would have been able to wait on me, remember we were to grow old together & go together. I have a hard time thinking that there is unfinished business for me to attend to here before we meet again. But when that day comes & we are reunited that will be the most glorious day. Watch over all of us. I love you, baby! Love you always...Susie
Greg -- It's still really hard to understand - why did you have to go? We were just back and Christmas . . .we just saw you. I keep thinking about that. It's really hard to accept. We miss you Greg. We miss your easy going nature, they way you could make people smile, and how you looked for the good in a person.
I miss you so much, Greg! You were our sole reason for moving back to this area and I feel as though my reason for living here has been taken away. Dad & I went and placed a white cross planter for you with a pretty blue arrangement on it (you always liked blue) and we also decorated Jimmy's grave yesterday. I feel so sad about losing you and my spirits are much like the weather we're having right now--gloomy, dismal, and filled with tears much like the rain that keeps falling. I love you and am trying through prayer to gather the positive outlook you always showed when you were enduring the stresses of life and yet you continued to try to cheer and help others even when there were many times I know you felt as though things were caving in around you. I know that you are at peace and rest now and free from all the troubles, stress, and hard work that you endured while on earth. I have heard so many beautiful testimonials about your life here and how you helped so many and what a caring and generous person you were which I already knew since I am your mother, but it has been uplifting to hear it from so many others. You made Mt. Carmel a better place just by being here and your leaving has left a vacancy in my heart and the rest of your family's heart that can never be replaced.
I love you,
Greg Shea really misses her Papa.She called Cassie & got to talk. Stay close. Luv U- Susie
Greg,u were right about the tree. The limb broke.U always knew everything. Luv u babe-Susie
I love you and miss you bro.
Eric, I'm so sorry for your loss. Our prayers go out to you and your family.
- Ed, Laura, and Katelyn
Greg today is really hard. I miss your touch. Wish you were here to hold.I love you.Susie
Greg I miss you so much. This is so hard. Please watch over us. I love you,baby! Susie
Greg,Shea & I went to the river & listened to some music just like we use to do. We love you. Susie
Greg, Shea couldn't finish school today. She misses you so much. Watch over her. I love you..Susie
The world was a better place because Greg was in it. I miss him so much.
-Greg's sister, Pam Asberry
Greg,I love & miss you so much & can only look forward to seeing you in Heaven soon.
My love, Mom
We miss you Greg. We love you and look forward to being reunited with you when our time comes.
Gregory... not a day goes by that I don't think about you.I miss & love you so much. Love, Susie
Greg was one of a kind, he will be greatly missed.
Janett Stein/Paul Porter
I am so sorry to hear about Greg. My prayers go to his children and to his family.
- Jeff Geyer
Susan and family - I am sorry for your loss.
Chris, Stacey, and Cameron Kieffer
Our condolences go out to Susan Simpson, Family & all of Greg's friends. Love, Jimmie & Reida Reed
Linda Schrader I am so sorry to hear this and will remember you in my prayer.